Which body would you rather live in?  One that is being punished, deprived and hated?  Or one that is honored, respected and loved?

I have spent much of my life feeling as though my body isn’t good enough.  Always wishing it was stronger, leaner, thinner, and taller.  I had a very sad relationship with my body, I was always disappointed in it and felt like I had to control it somehow. 

When I was ready for my body to do me the ultimate favor and carry a baby, it couldn’t even seem to do that for me.  This only made my relationship with my body even worse.  After years of heartache and lots of crazy treatments, my body finally came through and I had my first miracle baby.  I think I appreciated my body a little more because of it, but honestly I’m not really sure it changed the hateful relationship I was so accustomed to.  

Then breast cancer happened.  My body once again was letting me down.  I felt so betrayed, heartbroken, disconnected, and completely scared.  This was over 6 years ago, and I think it was my rock bottom.  I began searching for a better way.

I went to a Hay House event about a year after my bilateral mastectomy, and I was listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer give a talk.  He was so magnetic, and I was soaking up all his words… and then he said it… ‘Are you living your life based on fear or love?’  

This simple yet profound question just about knocked me off my seat.  I began to tear up.  I wrote down ‘Fear or Love’.  I realized that EVERYTHING I had done to ‘take care of myself’ was based on FEAR!  

I was exercising because I was afraid.  Afraid if I didn’t I would be fat, my cancer would come back, I wouldn’t be able to keep up with my life, I wouldn’t be good enough, I would be too stressed… and the list goes on and on.  Never once did it occur to me to exercise because I wanted to give my body some love and take care of myself better... out of love… nope, not once. I was drinking green juice, eating a vegan based diet, nothing processed, only because I was so scared the cancer would come back if I didn’t.  Never did it occur to me to feed my body nutritious food that nourished my body because I loved my body and I wanted to take care of it out of love and respect.  

Then I realized this went well beyond how I took care of my body, but my motive for almost all things in my life were based on fear.  This shocked me to my core. The toxicity level was huge. 

I needed to make the shift to love.

And sure enough, that's when I was introduced to EFT, Tapping.  

It's through EFT that I was able to heal my old patterns of hate, disappointment, disgust, resentment, fear, etc towards my body and step into choosing love.  

I now choose love.  

Am I perfect at it?  Absolutely not.  It’s a practice.  

There's no such thing as being perfect at anything. 

If I find myself wishing my thighs are smaller, or my arms are more muscular.  I stop… and decide to thank my body instead… after all, my body has been through a lot, and it never gave up on me. Even through all the abuse that I have put it through, it never gave up on me... for that, I'm eternally grateful.  

I know this life goes by too fast.  I don’t know if I'll be here tomorrow.  

So I have decided to thank my body for showing up and doing it’s thing.

I now choose to eat a healthy diet and exercise because I want to support my body and help it do it’s thing.  I choose to do it for love.  Love for my body and love for my life.

Switching from fear to love has been one of the most radical things I have ever done.

Are you ready to be radical?  

Want to learn how to tap right now?

It only takes a few minutes!

One of the things I love about EFT is that you can do it on your own!  You don’t always need a practitioner guiding you through your journey to freedom.  

This post is focusing on the feeling of stress.  So go ahead a take a deep breath and evaluate how stressed you are right now and if you are feeling it anywhere in your body.  Then scale the intensity 0-10.  0 being not stressed at all and 10 the most stressed you have ever been.  Got your number? 

Check out the picture above, it shows you all the tapping points.  Begin repeatedly tapping on the side of the hand and saying “Even though I am feeling so stressed, I still love and accept myself.  Even though my body is filled with so much stress, and all this stress is making me feel overwhelmed.  I still love and accept myself.  Even though I am so stressed out, I still love and accept myself.” 

Then move your tapping to the eyebrow point and with each phrase continue through the tapping points.  *Tap each point repeatedly while saying each phrase.

 “I am so stressed” (eyebrow)

"My body is filled with stress" (side of eye)

“All this stress” (under eye)

“So much stress” (under nose)

“I’m overwhelmed from all this stress” (chin)

“So much stress” (collar bone)

“This stress is overwhelming” (under arm)

“All this stress” (top of head)

“So much stress” (eyebrow)

“This overwhelming stress” (side of eye)

“I am feeling so stressed” (under eye)

“My body is filled with stress” (under nose)

“I am so stressed” (chin)

“Maybe I can release this stress and overwhelm” (collar bone)

“Maybe it’s time to let this stress and overwhelm go” (under arm)

“Maybe I can let this stress go” (top of head)

Take a deep breath, in through your nose and out through your mouth.

Time for a survey.  How you are feeling?  How stressed are you feeling now?  Has your number gone down?  Has your number gone up?

Did your number go up?  If so, don’t worry that means that tapping about your stress is really needed and keep repeating the above tapping round.  Feel free to replace some of the words describing how you are feeling to match exactly what you are feeling right now.  Keep tapping until you experience a great shift and lowering in stress. 

Did your number stay the same?  That means you need to keep tapping.  During your second time around really focus on how you are feeling and what is going on in your body.  Replace my description of stress to be your words.  Check in, what's your number now?

Did your number go down?  Great!  Is it low enough?  If not, keep tapping! 

 

Now that you know how to tap on your own you can start to use this amazingly powerful yet simple tool on your own! 

 

Common questions:

Why are we focusing on the negative?  I'd rather focus on how I want to feel.

When you tap it’s super important to focus on the negative feeling you are having, because then you will truly release it!  If you only focus on how you want to feel it won't have a true and lasting effect.  It’s like putting a band aid on a dirty cut without cleaning it first… chances are it will get infected and you will have a bigger problem. 

What if I do it wrong?

Good news my friends, you can’t mess this up!  You might have more impact or less impact, but you can’t do it wrong.  Even just tapping through the points without words will provide a calming effect.

What is the difference of tapping on my own versus working with a certified practitioner?

When tapping on your own it is very realistic that you will find relief and feel calmer after tapping.  However to really clear issues that are holding you back you should work with a certified practitioner.  Not sure what is really holding you back but you feel limited?  A certified practitioner can help guide you to your answers and help you clear it.  Curious if working with a certified practitioner is the right fit for you?  Let's chat and find out!

I would love to hear about your results from this tapping exercise! 

Let me know if you have any questions or concerns!

Much love to you!